To be wealthy you need to grow your character, mindset and habit.. You must be a solutions maker and add value to the lives of millions of people.. - Coach Ryan Vergara
HOW TO SPOT A LOSER
"Tomorrow only exists in the minds of LOSERS. Winners always say NOW, losers say NEXT TIME"
- Robert Kiyosaki
Losers are people who don’t get ahead in life. It is not because they lack the potential or talent to be successful. It is because they have certain beliefs, attitudes, habitual language and ways of thinking and doing that pull them back from getting ahead. There’s no problem if these losers just keep their being losers to themselves. The problem lies in the fact that being a loser is contagious. I wrote this article to help the reader see these losers so he/she can avoid them or try to help them improve themselves.
A loser is a person that:
With regards to commitments
- Cancels an appointment because “something came up” or suddenly he/she becomes sick
They are losers because they don't honor their commitment. This “something came up” excuse is said by people that suddenly became lazy to come to a meeting, or feels inconvenient to attend to his/her commitment.
- Comes VERY late in an appointment and blames the traffic
If the meeting is held at a place that is new to the person, then the “traffic” excuse is excusable. BUT, normally people who say this excuse the second time are people who are not taking the appointment seriously. Why? If the meeting was, let’s say 8am, he/she should already put into mind the possible delaying factors (that include traffic) and manage his/her time such that he/she shall still arrive on the meeting place at the appointment time, and not an hour later.
- Always says “I will try” or “I will see”
This loser is afraid to commit. This person uses as excuse that he/she does not control events and by promising something he/she shall be put in a compromising situation (“if I promise you I will be there then I won’t then you will be mad at me so I would rather just say I’ll see” instead so you won’t expect”). This person has a disease, and it's called SELF-DOUBT; he/she doubts if she can make things happen that is why he/she will just "see" or "try".
- Always says “I will check my schedule”
The context for losers of this statement is that they are not courageous enough to decline an invitation. That's why they would rather say “I will check my schedule” instead of simply saying “No, I cannot be there on that day”. Now while it may be true to some people that they need to see their schedule to check for any conflicts, losers NEVER really check their schedule.
With regards to relating to other people
- Can't say no to his/her boss
They are losers because they have a false respect for their superior at work. Bosses were just given positions at work but not power over one's life. These losers are too afraid to displease their boss that they cannot refuse any additional request beyond what their work requires. Sometimes these are the losers who have commitments at 5:30pm (out of the office commitment) then suddenly boss calls him/her for a meeting or requests for a report exactly at 5pm. He/she does not have the power to tell his/her boss that she can't do what this boss requests because of that commitment.
- When these losers flock together they often talk about problems and complain together.
Losers always complain and complain. They never stop. The reason their “issues” persist is that they can’t stop talking about it. Winners recognize problems but instead of complaining about them, in conversations, they talk about solutions.
With regards to money
- Always says “I don't have money”
This loser has a scarcity mentality. For him/her money is life or death. The losers who always say this never becomes wealthy because he/she has the habitual language of a poor person.
- Has no money to buy books or attend workshops that can help him/her grow but has lots of money for watching movies, night-outs, luxury items (such as the latest gadgets, etc).
This person has no direction in life. For this person, money is meant to be enjoyed (that he/she worked hard for) and it’s a waste of money to buy books or attend workshops/seminars that he/she “is not interested about”. To this person, a mere four hundred bucks is very expensive for a workshop but four thousand is a small price for a new iPod.
With regards to spending time
- Always says “I am busy with work” and seems to have no time to do things other than work
More often than not, the thing this loser is busy with, even if it's requested by their employer, is not aligned with their dreams and aspirations in life. But they are just too caught up with being a good employee that they cannot do the things that lead to their success. They believe their diligence at work shall bring them success.
- Feels entitled to rest during weekends when invited for an educational activity but CANNOT say no to the boss when requested to report for work during the weekend
It is not a bad thing to want to rest during weekends after a tiring week. However, this loser can’t decline sudden requests from the “boss” to go to the office for a project meeting or to do a report at home to be submitted on Monday. Now when there’s a chance to do an activity that can enrich his/her life (such as attending a workshop or a community activity) he drops the “it’s my rest day/family day” excuse.
- Spends his/her free time reading showbiz/sports magazines and watching TV but spends no time reading success books.
With regards to opportunities
- Complains about not having enough opportunities in life but when opportunities come along he/she says “it's too good to be true” or always says “What's the catch?”
Prudence in making decisions is important so you won’t be scammed, BUT there’s a thin line between being prudent and playing it safe. The loser only sees the bad side on a deal or an opportunity before seeing the good side.
-Is too afraid of the price associated to reaching his/her goals
This loser sees a goal, says he/she is committed to achieve it but when he/she learns what he/she needs to give up or what he/she has to do to reach this goal (assuming what is needed is not immoral or unethical) he/she thinks twice. This loser does only things that are convenient and what impresses other people and him/herself. This loser fails to understand that discomfort and sacrifices are key ingredients to success.
With regards to being in business
- Claims he/she is in a business when he/she is only a self-employed person
This loser believes that just because he/she is his/her own boss he/she is already in business. For instance, a highly paid freelance consultant, he/she will say that "I'm in the consultancy business". But what do you know? He/she is still an employee of himself! And the boss is – HIM/HERSELF
- Believes that to start a business you should consider first how much money he/she has in her pocket and in the bank
Real entrepreneurs look first at how much profit he/she wants to make before making any business plan. A loser who wants to be in business first looks at how much money he/she has. Then when he/she has deemed there isn’t enough capital for his/her “dream business” he/she either works harder to get more salary or just give up starting a business.
- Starts a business on the basis of what is impressive to him/herself or to other people
This loser believes that the business that he/she should be in must be related to his/her profession or work experience. Another basis of this loser for choosing which business is what his/her friends suggest.
With regards to creating wealth
- Is a highly paid employee (a high level manager, a Vice President or even the CEO) and he/she believes he/she is wealthy
Wealth is not measured with the amount of money that you have. It is measured in time – How much time can your money support you even if you don’t have to work? This loser does not realize that while he/she has a lot of money from his/her salary, he/she does not have much time freedom (or it doesn’t even exist for him/her). The higher one’s position in the corporate ladder is, the more demanding work becomes. That’s why in the employment world it is said that the more successful you become, the more imprisoned you become.
- Believes that buying stocks in the stockmarket and putting money in mutual funds is investing
REAL investors look primarily for one thing when they invest – CASHFLOW. Now losers believe that the primary reason to invest is VALUE APPRECIATION. So they buy stocks or mutual funds and pray that the market rallies. They even introduce themselves as investors when they know not a single thing about what investing really is.
ACTION EXERCISES:
If you are still a loser here are some things you can do NOW so you can slowly be a winner:
1. Write down the common excuses you say to avoid commitments. Write at least ten ways you can improve your integrity to other people.
2. Practice negotiating with your boss. Your boss is just another employee in the company whether he is a Vice President or even the CEO. His words are not absolute power. He does not have control over your time after office hours even if your job description says "Any task from time to time the superior gives".
3. Practice saying "I have abundance of money" instead of "I don't have any money". "To See Is To Believe" is another language pattern of losers. Winners believe first before they see.
4. Read books that teach you to become a REAL INVESTOR and not mediocre investors who believe that you should invest and wait for your money to grow. Read Rich Dad's Guide To Investing and Rich Dad's Who Took My Money? (both by Robert Kiyosaki) for you to understand how you can be like Warren Buffet.
5. When you have an appointment practice arriving at the venue thirty minutes earlier.
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